We admit sometimes we tend to loose our patience and tends to spank our kids. Since my inlaw used to warn my son with spanks he are now used to it that even if you say it he's not scared anymore, I'm trying to do another approach like explain it to him that it's wrong and not to do or say bad things but it never seem to work, I am really getting short with how to correctly displine my son! He sometimes hits his little bro, since he does not understand that his little bro still don't know anything! what should I do?
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posted by
prettyjen on 19 November 2010
at 3:18 p.m.
I feel for you girls. I am also in the same boat. I have a 6 year old son and he is driving me crazy. I also run out of options on how to discipline him. I did that face the wall thing, spank him, ground him but its seems that its all temporary. WHen I spank him, I feel terrible and I am starting to think that I maybe a bad parent. hay... kids today are so different. They know how to drive their parents crazy :(
posted by
irlsgirl on 23 October 2010
at 2:28 p.m.
Our job as parents is to train our kids, not to do whatever it takes so they don't cry.
Spanking is not the same as beating your child if you explain to him/her why it is being done: because he did something wrong, and not because you are getting fed up. If you do decide to spank, do it immediately, not when you can no longer take it. It only teaches them to know how far they can push you.
We spanked our kids. We have twins. The spanking reinforced the rules, honored the one who obeyed, and taught the one who disobeyed that she did wrong, We ALWAYS explained why -- and when they got older, we would ask them if they know why they will be getting a spanking, and they know and understand -- and we assure them after that we still love THEM. We don't spank them anymore because they have learned from it, and at 10 years old, they are old enough to negotiate their own punishment.
But YOU have to be firm. If you say you will spank, do it. Empty "threats" destroy your integrity and credibility. When you can establish your integrity and credibility with your kids, then the time will come when one word, one look, will be enough. For us, we never threatened. It just came, as soon as they disobeyed. It's called "training for first-time obedience" which means that we train them to obey right away, first time we tell them to do something.
Keep this truth in mind: "No discipline is enjoyable while it is happening -- it is painful! But afterward there will be a peaceful harvest of right living for those who are trained in this way." Hebrews 12:11
Just remember: more is caught than taught. If you are not purposefully training your child to be disciplined and respectful of others, you are training him NOT to be. And guess who eventually becomes the loser?
Your child.
posted by
mona8 on 12 October 2010
at 3:12 p.m.
hi, one thing i learned about these kids going crazy, i mean whining and everyhting is ignore them.they will get tired of it and soon after they will come to their senses. I admit I have a great patience and thank goodness I havent spank my son yet. and also, he kinda understands me in one look or two to me.
posted by
suzanneong on 11 October 2010
at 4:54 p.m.
I tried making him stand in the corner but seems not working, I don't know if he's too small to understand yet or what good luck to me!
posted by
LaurenCorrea on 10 October 2010
at 0:44 a.m.
i know what you mean, suzanne! i'm running out of options myself. but what i find most effective though is grounding them. For example, when my son Ace is being bad to his "Ate" (the yaya), shouts at her or hit her or even just an "attempt" to hit her, i ground him by taking away his tv time, psp time & playtime with friends for 2 days to 10 days, depends on the gravity of his sin....it really gives him time to think about what he has done and avoid doing it again (if he could help it, that is) hehe! i hope it would work for you too. :-)
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